{"id":32895,"date":"2014-07-07T09:00:57","date_gmt":"2014-07-07T09:00:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.wonderlandmagazine.com\/?p=32895"},"modified":"2014-07-07T14:27:33","modified_gmt":"2014-07-07T14:27:33","slug":"belong-together","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.wonderlandmagazine.com\/2014\/07\/07\/belong-together\/","title":{"rendered":"We Belong Together"},"content":{"rendered":"
Four of alt. culture\u2019s most influential met to discuss global female empowerment and good old fashion porno in a post-Miley, post-Dunham world<\/p>\n
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<\/a><\/p>\n Phoebe, Karley and I met for the first time in Milan several years ago, when we were less blonde, more fat and Petra was still in diapers. We\u2019ve collaborated with each other overseas but this is the first time we\u2019re all together in Petra\u2019s apartment in NYC (because hers has a stripper pole). It\u2019s an important moment, like when Geri left the Spice Girls.<\/p>\n Karley Sciortino is the brilliant brain behind sex and youth culture blog, Slutever. She\u2019s written and made videos for magazines like Purple, Vice and NY Times and interviewed your favourite porn stars. She\u2019s currently writing a lifestyle column called \u201cBreathless\u201d for Vogue, featuring the best faux-photobooth selfies you\u2019ve ever seen. Phoebe Collings- James hates when people mention her looks before her work, but she\u2019s so beautiful you don\u2019t want your boyfriend to see pictures of her until you have to tell him that story of when you bought hair extensions in London and saw her face on the package. She could be a supermodel but instead she\u2019s a successful artist, using sculpture, illustration, performance, video and mixed media to provoke viewers into existential crisis. You can find her blogging on (female empowerment-related news site, CUNT TODAY) between exhibitions and probably fighting crime at night. Petra Collins is the new \u201cit girl\u201d of photography, if \u201cit\u201d stands for \u201cincredibly talented.\u201d She recently gained fame for the menstruating vagina t-shirt she snapped for and a self-portrait featuring pubic hair which caused worldwide hysteria, but mostly she\u2019s known for taking photographs that make you wish you could go back in time and attend whatever high school exists in her mind. I\u2019m Tea Hacic-Vlahovic, known as \u201cSugar Tits\u201d on Tumblr, the columnist for Vice and Wired Italy who makes too many fart jokes and an above-average Tweeter, according to my mom.<\/p>\n We\u2019re all from different countries, work in various fields and have paved our individual paths as creative women, despite obstacles like the glass ceiling or a gluten-free diet in Italy. We thought it would be interesting to see if our cultural differences get in the way of agreeing on important issues, like\u00a0hashtags and pop stars.<\/p>\n <\/a><\/p>\n Tea:<\/strong> Have y\u2019all seen Gaga\u2019s new video [March\u2019s G.U.Y.]?<\/p>\n Petra:<\/strong> There\u2019s a new one?<\/p>\n T:<\/strong> It got millions of views the first night and half were mine. She\u2019s the only celeb I\u2019m jealous of after Rihanna.<\/p>\n Phoebe:<\/strong> Rihanna is incredible because she just has fun and doesn\u2019t give a fuck. She also talks about sex and why girls should use condoms. She doesn\u2019t beat around the bush, she\u2019s like, make sure you\u2019re respecting yourself and having a good time but also be protected.<\/p>\n Karley:<\/strong> Without being like, \u201cwait for the right person!\u201d I think we all know to be safe but we\u2019ve all been like, \u201cfuck, I forgot again.\u201d<\/p>\n P: <\/strong>I don\u2019t think I\u2019ve ever done that sober.<\/p>\n T:<\/strong> I don\u2019t think I\u2019ve ever had sex sober! Unprotected sex\u00a0is like drunk-eating: \u201cI\u2019m going to hate myself tomorrow but I don\u2019t care, ha, ha!\u201d I\u2019m always worried I have some disease, regardless of getting tested.<\/p>\n K:<\/strong> Sexually successful women should worry about that! There aren\u2019t enough good sexual role models like Rihanna.<\/p>\n Petra:<\/strong> There aren\u2019t! Listen to her lyrics compared to any- one else\u2019s. She says, \u201cI love it, I love it, I love it when you eat it\u201d over and over again.\u00a0I made a piece dedicated to that for my solo exhibition.<\/p>\n P:<\/strong> What about Miley Cyrus? People got so upset with her but don\u2019t they know that\u2019s how everyone dances at clubs? I think it\u2019s because Robin Thicke is so offensive.\u00a0If she\u2019d bent over for Pharrell the reactions would have been different.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n T:<\/strong> He\u2019s so offensive yet she got the backlash. You never hear people asking if male artists are good role models for slapping butts in music videos.<\/p>\n K:<\/strong> I\u2019m writing an article about compulsive sexual behavior and talking to this psychologist about how the media never shows hypersexual women having happy endings. The slutty character in movies always gets punished. She either gets murdered, raped or ends up alone. The harlot is never the hero.<\/p>\n T:<\/strong> And that often proves to be true. Like the Duke porn star who got ousted by another student and responded by writing eloquent letters about why she\u2019s empowered by\u00a0sex work and how it\u2019s unfair that people watch \u201ccollege girl\u201d porn but don\u2019t want those girls in college. She had to drop out because she was getting death and rape threats.<\/p>\n P:<\/strong> I participated in a talk recently about Page Three,\u00a0to discuss if it should exist. A woman on the panel teaches preteen boys and asked them about the girl in an issue and they said, \u201cI\u2019d bang her and ditch her, she\u2019s hot but not\u00a0a girlfriend,\u201d and that\u2019s so problematic.<\/p>\n T:<\/strong> It\u2019s a classic double standard. He\u2019d never date\u00a0a stripper or prostitute but he frequents strip clubs and prostitutes.<\/p>\n P:<\/strong> Has writing about your sex lives and using sexuality in your work affected people you dated?<\/p>\n Petra:<\/strong> I modeled for Richard Kern a bunch of times and\u00a0I remember when this one bondage photo came out, my ex-boyfriend was not happy at all. He shamed me so hard, like, \u201cthis makes me less attracted to you because everyone can see it.\u201d He was mad because it wasn\u2019t just for him.<\/p>\n<\/div>\n K:<\/strong> I surround myself with highly intelligent, liberal guys and I wouldn\u2019t date someone who doesn\u2019t support what I do. I feel the problem is those who don\u2019t know me. Everyone knows I\u2019m a sex writer and have seen pictures of me naked, but most of them have never read anything I\u2019ve written. In a recent piece about me in the Sunday Times, the first paragraph\u2019s like, \u201cshe\u2019s peed on guys, had sex with a Hasidic Jew and been a dominatrix!\u201d I know it\u2019s all true but so is, \u201cshe wrote an in depth piece about transgendered oppression.\u201d They didn\u2019t add that because it\u2019s easier to just say I\u2019m a wild ho.<\/p>\n